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Can you #AgreeOnTea?
Even in these divided times, there is surely one last thing we Brits can agree on…
Tea.
Could you have a 10-minute cuppa with someone from a different political tribe to talk about a difficult topic?
- Perhaps with the family member that you've given up talking politics with.
- Your next-door neighbour who votes for that political party.
- Your workmate who doesn't see the world your way at all.
- Or even that person you avoid in the street because they look like they belong to the other side.
If you do, then in the time it takes your tea to cool down, maybe you'll cool down the country a little too.
When We The People choose to talk and listen to each other with respect, we challenge the perception of our insurmountable division.
And we might discover there's more humanity and nuance among us than the algorithm or our politicians and media want us to believe.
And that means we can come back together to find a way through our problems after all.
The Idea
The idea is to hold a respectful, honest conversation across our tribal lines.
Where both sides are free to speak and be heard; where any perspective can be expressed.
Of course, it's going to take courage. It's going to take backbone.
Even more so, because the topic for this tea is one of the most difficult we face:
What do you think about immigration and how this country might approach it?
The Plan
Here's how we suggest you go about it:
The Beginning
Gentle Brew
This first step is the most important. While you wait for the tea to brew, and add milk and sugar, make sure you check in as human beings first. How are you, what's on your mind or going on in your life right now?
Since so many of us have passionate views about immigration, it's good to connect as people before you dive in!
The Middle
Dialogue
It's simple: each person has at least 3 rounds of 90 seconds each to speak.
- When one person speaks, the other must listen. No interruptions.
- When it's your turn to speak, you give your honest and heartfelt point of view. No sugar-coating.
- When it's your turn to listen, you really listen – rather than just thinking about what you're going to say next.
- It's best to use an alarm for timings so that you're free to engage with the other person, not your phone.
The golden rule: be sure to avoid insults. Treat the other person how you would like to be treated in turn.
And if you want to do more than 3 rounds, go for it!
The End
A Minute to Reflect
Once you both feel done, take one last minute to reflect on the process with each other.
Don't feel disheartened about how much you disagreed. It's unlikely a single tea would change anyone's minds!
Rather consider if there was even a moment of empathy for the other's point of view?
Did you find even a single square inch of shared ground or catch a glimpse, no matter how brief, of the human beyond the divide?
If the journey to come back together is 10,000 miles, then that would be a first step.
Spread the Word
The most important thing is that the conversation happens at all. So if you want to keep it entirely private, that's totally fine.
Or just share a photo of your two hands, your cups or your mugs, tagging #AgreeOnTea and @WeThePeopleGather.
Of course, you can go further and share audio or video of the whole or part of the conversation.
If others hear that you two did #AgreeOnTea, it might inspire them to do the same – perhaps even create a wave of reconnection across the country.
In this way, we can all do our bit to show a more united, hopeful future is possible.